Why Do We Choose To Suffer? – Dialectic Two Step

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Question: Why do we choose to suffer?

Response: We don’t. It sounds fairly ridiculous that someone would choose suffering. We suffer because of our choices. The choices that lead to suffering are made on faulty expectations. It’s indirect. We choose things to make us happy. We choose to go on a diet to lose weight. We choose marriage to make love last. We choose a religion to reconnect with the divine.

Our suffering comes because we discover that achieving happiness, healthiness, and good relationships isn’t as simple as choosing and having it. We have to work at it. We succeed sometimes and we fail others.

It’s not a matter of choosing suffering or not. If it were that simple, then suffering would not exists. But, as you should realize, It’s just not that simple.

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Dialectic Two-Step  is an ongoing series of my thoughts on questions that come my way.

Wisdom lies neither in fixity nor in change, but in the dialectic between the two. - Octavio

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